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I really loved the practical steps of cultivating prudence that you included at the end. I think it’s easy to forget that all of that is forming us into a certain kind of person. Thanks for this work!

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It *is* easy to forget, isn't it? That learning for learning's sake doesn't cultivate much more than pride in us, eh? Especially ironic what with prudence's emphasis on practicality.

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Oct 17, 2023Liked by Tsh Oxenreider

Really excited for this series! I'm currently reading Pieper's The Four Cardinal Virtues so this should be a fun companion read!

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I looooove everything Pieper writes. Great choice of reading!

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Oct 17, 2023·edited Oct 17, 2023Liked by Tsh Oxenreider

Oh how I could have used that quote from Beth Silvers a year + ago. I will be saving that one to reflect back on, I’m sure in the near future!

“Many times, a trustworthy source is our own gut, animated by the Holy Spirit.” — our God-given intuition is *truly* the KEY, yet so often we overlook those instinctual feelings, because we are so caught up in the thinking. I know that is where I personally get hung up—even if I am getting every sign from Holy Spirit to move in a specific direction— I can still be caught in the “think trap” for weeks.

Look forward to the rest of this series!

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I get this! I can get the same way. ...And yes, Beth Silver's wisdom is a sliver of gold (ironically) worth keeping in our pockets.

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What a timely piece! I especially appreciated the emphasis on observing the truth as what IS, rather than what we wish it was. This is often where I get hung up, because if the rest of my decision making hangs on my ideal version of life vs. my actual life it’s impossible to make prudent decisions. Then I end up having to back track to deal with my fantasy self’s wishful thinking 😅. And that Beth Silvers quote is so helpful. I think it’s what I know, but I easily get bogged down in the potential consequences of a decision which, while not inconsequential, are impossible to truly know ahead of time. It also does not take into account the way that God often works to make a path before us as we take each step in faith. It doesn’t mean we throw out reason, but the rightness or wrongness of a decision doesn’t always match up in such a tidy way.

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Yes to the ideal life vs. actual life — it's so obvious, yet it's so easy to forget in the moment.

And yes, it's wild to think about the omniscience of God working ways through all this walking-in-faith business! Makes the mind explode. 🤯

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Oct 17, 2023Liked by Tsh Oxenreider

This is not language I was raised on, so I am excited to continue to learn more!

Have you ever considered having a “listen” option for your newsletters? I am not techie, so I don’t understand how all that works, but I am learning that my focus is so much better when listening (top choice of course holding a physical printed page) instead of reading on a device. I also would rather have my kids “catch” me listening to something rather than scrolling. Please consider! (Plus, I find your voice comforting. Is that weird to have some stranger say?)

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I've thought about that, actually! I'll consider it. Thanks for the $.02, Maggie.

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Tsh, you are just so dang smart...and I am so grateful for the way you use your words.

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I will try my best to articulate my thoughts into a short comment versus a novel. First, the more I read your writing and pursuits the less I feel so weird. 😊That is a complement! I decided about a year ago to start reading and studying backward. To spend time with the church fathers and dig into not only faith history but culture too. I was and still am wrestling deeply with how disconnected life has become, how community has waned and and simple common courtesy and consideration seem like lost practices. It’s almost like I woke from a long sleep and cannot recognize where I am. I have been a part of the evangelical church for about 35 years. I have seen the ebb and flow over those years, and they are no longer my people, yet I have no desire to convert to anything else. I simply long to live a full, purposeful life in faith. In reading your article about the Cardinal Virtues I felt affirmed. It helped me see that I am on a good path with how I am choosing to walk this life out loving God and other people. When I read your personal list of how you are cultivating and practicing prudence in your life, I felt a sense of relief. My list is very similar in how I move through my decisions and choices. I felt like you understood me a bit. Too bad I cannot find my people IRL though. Some of my friends think I am weird when I share some of the people and materials I read and try to share about. Although I’ve long let go of trying to fit in, it felt a little like that as I read this piece. So, thank you!

And the wisdom from Beth Silvers was so good! Tucking that one away for keeps in the decision making progress. I have a decision-making criteria list that I use to help me navigate bigger choices and this one is getting added to that list.

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